In Conversation with Linda

Firstly, I’d like to extend my best wishes to everyone during what has been a most challenging year for all of us.  If you have been bereaved during this time in any way, my sincere heartfelt condolences are sent to you. 

I am delighted to share a recent Podcast interview with the wonderful, dynamic Linda Hayden who invited me to join her for her PACwoman podcast.  Linda is not only a wonderful activist who supports and advocates for victims, she is also an extremely talented comedian, so this interview was unlike any I’ve ever done before!  It is full of empathy, a touch of death and grief, but primarily focussed on positivity and life, sprinkled with a few laughs out loud.  A link to the podcast on iTunes and Spotify are at the bottom of this blogpost.   

As Linda mentioned, my book can be found anywhere online and in some bookshops and it is called Grief Demystified: An Introduction.  Additionally, for anyone interested in learning more about grief online in the comfort of their own home, the wonderful Rosalie Kuyvenhoven and myself have recorded a lovely one hour introduction to contemporary grief theory and supporting the bereaved here: Grief Training for Professionals. 

While I have your attention, you might like to head on over to the Irish Hospice Foundation to check out their Think Ahead document if you’re in Ireland or Compassion in Dying in the UK for an advance directive.  For online resources, information and support for palliative care Marie Curie are amazing. 

For those of you interested, here are the links to everything else that I mentioned during my interview with Linda (and if you are unable to open paywall protected research use the sci hub website): 

  1. My PhD Research  
  1. EKR: On Death & Dying Book 
  1. 2020 Becker et al research  
  1. 2020 Birrell et al research  
  1. Bonanno resilience research 
  1. Tedeschi & Calhoun Post Traumatic Growth (PTG) research 
  1. Death and the Irish Book 
  1. Death Café Website 
  1. Louise Winter at Poetic Endings 
  1. My post on “Battle” language referring to death, dying & bereavement 

The PACwoman podcast can be accessed on iTunes and Spotify

I would be delighted to hear any comments or feedback that you have on the interview and if you wish to get in touch my website is  I wish you all a safe and peaceful week.  

Adolescent Babyloss Experiences


Its been several months since I originally published this post and the response has been incredible. I’m very grateful to each and every one of the women that has participated so far.  For anyone looking for more information please read the following:

My PhD research is exploring the experiences of adolescents who experienced a gestnatal death whilst in secondary school.  Originally we were using the word “perinatal” but due to the fact that it is defined differently in various countries and organisations, I’m unable to use it for research purposes.  Instead we are using the word “gestnatal”, defined as: “The death of a human life from conception to 28 days’ post-birth inclusive.”

Gestational and neonatal deaths can be divided into two groups: biological (miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death etc.) and non-biological (abortion, therapeutic termination etc.).  My research is encompassing all gestnatal deaths because we are exploring the grief, social, and educational impact of the event.  My research design is split into two parts; firstly, there is a questionnaire to gather as much broad data as possible and I’d like to extend my deepest thanks to the women to who took the time to complete this questionnaire.

Secondly, interviews are currently being undertaken by me to dig deeper into the data summarised following the collection of the questionnaires.

The purpose of this study is to provide information on these experiences so that we can inform policy makers, teachers, medical professionals, school guidance counsellors etc. so that they can better understand and support these teenagers and subsequent women.

If you experienced a gestnatal death whilst in secondary school and are willing to be interviewed, or if you would like more information on this research, please email me at:

Once again, thank you to all the participants who have completed the questionnaires so far, and to everyone who has volunteered to be interviewed.